Some Thoughts on Fifty Shades

I keep hearing all the hype about "Fifty Shades of Grey". The women's movement call it a "how to" on abusing a woman, the religious keep calling it "porn", and others are curious as to why any woman would allow herself to be "abused" in the name of love. "The Fifty Shades of Grey" is one of the many books that can be found in any bookstore on the subject of BDSM. Some others are: "The Sleeping Beauty Quartet" by Anne Rice, "Crossfire" book series by Sylvia Day, and "The Story of O" by Pauline Reage, just to name a few. All you have to do it look for them, in my local Barnes & Noble there are shelves of books regarding BDSM. 

Ana, chooses to enter a Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) relationship with Christian. She chooses to allow Christian to use her body as he sees fit, for his pleasure as well as hers. Christian does not abuse her in anger, he uses implements (blindfolds, crops, restraints) to make her complaisant to his will, his pleasure, and her pleasure. A Dominant/Master(D/M) is responsible in every way for his submissive/slave's well being (mental and physical). A good D/M

will always take care of his/her sub/slave with aftercare, including but not limited to bathing her, applying salve/unguents to any mark made, holding her as she sleeps. 

A Dominant/submissive (D/s) or Master/slave (M/s) relationships exist in everyday life. Most call it "She wears the pants in that family" or "Wow, she cannot make a decision without him". If a man or woman is in a relationship where one of the partners makes all the decisions, that can be termed a dominant/submissive relationship. No relationship is without a a "stronger" partner, many times the stronger partner is the woman. Does this make it "wrong"? "No," would be the answer because it works for them. To be honest who am I to make a judgement about how any couple in today's world chooses to live their lives, their relationship, or their marriage. 

Abuse has NO place in a D/s or M/s relationship ever. A D/M NEVER hits, uses, or plays/sessions while he is angry. This is a steadfast rule of 99% of real D/M's. 

The Holy Bible states in Colossians 3:18-19 the following: "...Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them...". For me many do not understand this passage; many couples assume that it means that the "husband" should be in charge in every aspect of the relationship. But God does NOT ask the woman to be a "doormat". He[God] asks for her discernment in all things regarding to their marriage and everyday life. A very good website regarding this is, "Girls Gone Wise"[1]. 

Myself, I live in a relationship that is considered to be D/s. My fiance and I have both been part of this lifestyle for over twenty (20) years. I am not ashamed to say I am collared to my fiance, as my outward sign is a simple ring he purchased for me to wear. Do we flaunt our lifestyle? "No, we do not." Do we know others in the lifestyle, "Yes, we both do." Do we belong to a club, "No we do not at this time," both of us have been part of local BDSM scenes in our former states of residence for me New York, and he, Florida. Are there many BDSM organizations & clubs, "Yes there are many, some of them are very old and very reputable, other are what we 'Old Guard' term the 'Fly by Nights' which are here today and gone tomorrow usually run by those whom have been in the lifestyle under five (5) years, and do not know what they are doing when it comes to handling implements or handling their personal relationships." 

I know many whom are involved in this type relationship whom are doctors, lawyers, judges, nurses, and many in law enforcement, and other in all walks of life. Do we look at these people differently? "No", we look at them as people whom take care of us, whom enforce the law, and pass judgement in courtrooms. 

If you wish to read more about BDSM, I recommend the following website: "A Submissive's Voice"[2] which is written by a submissive. The blog is to help those who wish to know more about the BDSM lifestyle. 

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[1]  http://www.girlsgonewise.com/7-misconceptions-about-submission/

[2]  http://asubmissivesvoice.blogspot.com/

To Vaccinate or Not...

Since 1 January 2015 there have been 105 confirmed cases of the "Measles" in the United States[1]. This is the same Measles Virus that was considered eradicated in 2000. Why was this possible? Because parents followed the guidelines for having their children immunized against it. Why are we seeing a resurgence of this disease? Because parents are dictating to doctors what they will and will not allow their children to be treated for. What happens when their child is being registered for school, is the school district going to turn a blind eye to these parents whom refused to have their children immunized or are they going to allow them to attend school with hundreds of other children whom have been immunized or turn them away and say, "You need to home school your children or get them immunized." My thought is that school districts that allow non-immunized children into schools with children whom have been are seeking to be sued for not protecting the public.

While I do understand that part of the population does not have their children immunized because of religious beliefs (Christian Scientists and Jehovah's Witness')[2] or because they live in what most American's consider closed societies (Amish, Quakers, Mennonite). However, the Amish elders encourage parents to have all children immunized. While the jury is still out as to if immunizations cause other problems (i.e.: Autism, ADD, ADHD, etc.), the original "scientific study" that came from England in the early 2000's was de-bunked as the doctor whom wrote the findings never did the study.  

Myself, I remember having to get a MMR booster before attending college in the late 1990's. Why? Because the dose that was given during the early 1970's was considered too weak. Just this past year there was an outbreak of the mumps on the campus of The Ohio State University[4]. 

My thoughts, if you or your child are NOT immunized against early childhood diseases such as diptheria, tetnus, polio (DPT), measles, mumps, rubella (MMR), Hib, Hepatitis, et cetera[5]. Please stay away from major public attractions such as movie theaters, the mall, the zoo, Disney Parks & Attractions, Universal Studios, or any other major attraction where you or your child could infect another. 

To the unthinking, modern, know-it-all parent whom REFUSES to immunize your child/children:  YOU ARE A THREAT to my children & seven grandchildren (ages 2 to 13). 

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[1] http://www.cdc.gov/measles/cases-outbreaks.html 

[1] http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2015/02/02/us/measles-facts.html?_r=0

[2] http://www.religioustolerance.org/medical2.htm
[3] http://www.everyculture.com/multi/A-Br/Amish.html

[4] http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/16/health/ohio-mumps/

[5] http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/schedules/hcp/imz/child-adolescent.html