Some Thoughts on Fifty Shades

I keep hearing all the hype about "Fifty Shades of Grey". The women's movement call it a "how to" on abusing a woman, the religious keep calling it "porn", and others are curious as to why any woman would allow herself to be "abused" in the name of love. "The Fifty Shades of Grey" is one of the many books that can be found in any bookstore on the subject of BDSM. Some others are: "The Sleeping Beauty Quartet" by Anne Rice, "Crossfire" book series by Sylvia Day, and "The Story of O" by Pauline Reage, just to name a few. All you have to do it look for them, in my local Barnes & Noble there are shelves of books regarding BDSM. 

Ana, chooses to enter a Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) relationship with Christian. She chooses to allow Christian to use her body as he sees fit, for his pleasure as well as hers. Christian does not abuse her in anger, he uses implements (blindfolds, crops, restraints) to make her complaisant to his will, his pleasure, and her pleasure. A Dominant/Master(D/M) is responsible in every way for his submissive/slave's well being (mental and physical). A good D/M

will always take care of his/her sub/slave with aftercare, including but not limited to bathing her, applying salve/unguents to any mark made, holding her as she sleeps. 

A Dominant/submissive (D/s) or Master/slave (M/s) relationships exist in everyday life. Most call it "She wears the pants in that family" or "Wow, she cannot make a decision without him". If a man or woman is in a relationship where one of the partners makes all the decisions, that can be termed a dominant/submissive relationship. No relationship is without a a "stronger" partner, many times the stronger partner is the woman. Does this make it "wrong"? "No," would be the answer because it works for them. To be honest who am I to make a judgement about how any couple in today's world chooses to live their lives, their relationship, or their marriage. 

Abuse has NO place in a D/s or M/s relationship ever. A D/M NEVER hits, uses, or plays/sessions while he is angry. This is a steadfast rule of 99% of real D/M's. 

The Holy Bible states in Colossians 3:18-19 the following: "...Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them...". For me many do not understand this passage; many couples assume that it means that the "husband" should be in charge in every aspect of the relationship. But God does NOT ask the woman to be a "doormat". He[God] asks for her discernment in all things regarding to their marriage and everyday life. A very good website regarding this is, "Girls Gone Wise"[1]. 

Myself, I live in a relationship that is considered to be D/s. My fiance and I have both been part of this lifestyle for over twenty (20) years. I am not ashamed to say I am collared to my fiance, as my outward sign is a simple ring he purchased for me to wear. Do we flaunt our lifestyle? "No, we do not." Do we know others in the lifestyle, "Yes, we both do." Do we belong to a club, "No we do not at this time," both of us have been part of local BDSM scenes in our former states of residence for me New York, and he, Florida. Are there many BDSM organizations & clubs, "Yes there are many, some of them are very old and very reputable, other are what we 'Old Guard' term the 'Fly by Nights' which are here today and gone tomorrow usually run by those whom have been in the lifestyle under five (5) years, and do not know what they are doing when it comes to handling implements or handling their personal relationships." 

I know many whom are involved in this type relationship whom are doctors, lawyers, judges, nurses, and many in law enforcement, and other in all walks of life. Do we look at these people differently? "No", we look at them as people whom take care of us, whom enforce the law, and pass judgement in courtrooms. 

If you wish to read more about BDSM, I recommend the following website: "A Submissive's Voice"[2] which is written by a submissive. The blog is to help those who wish to know more about the BDSM lifestyle. 

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[1]  http://www.girlsgonewise.com/7-misconceptions-about-submission/

[2]  http://asubmissivesvoice.blogspot.com/

To Vaccinate or Not...

Since 1 January 2015 there have been 105 confirmed cases of the "Measles" in the United States[1]. This is the same Measles Virus that was considered eradicated in 2000. Why was this possible? Because parents followed the guidelines for having their children immunized against it. Why are we seeing a resurgence of this disease? Because parents are dictating to doctors what they will and will not allow their children to be treated for. What happens when their child is being registered for school, is the school district going to turn a blind eye to these parents whom refused to have their children immunized or are they going to allow them to attend school with hundreds of other children whom have been immunized or turn them away and say, "You need to home school your children or get them immunized." My thought is that school districts that allow non-immunized children into schools with children whom have been are seeking to be sued for not protecting the public.

While I do understand that part of the population does not have their children immunized because of religious beliefs (Christian Scientists and Jehovah's Witness')[2] or because they live in what most American's consider closed societies (Amish, Quakers, Mennonite). However, the Amish elders encourage parents to have all children immunized. While the jury is still out as to if immunizations cause other problems (i.e.: Autism, ADD, ADHD, etc.), the original "scientific study" that came from England in the early 2000's was de-bunked as the doctor whom wrote the findings never did the study.  

Myself, I remember having to get a MMR booster before attending college in the late 1990's. Why? Because the dose that was given during the early 1970's was considered too weak. Just this past year there was an outbreak of the mumps on the campus of The Ohio State University[4]. 

My thoughts, if you or your child are NOT immunized against early childhood diseases such as diptheria, tetnus, polio (DPT), measles, mumps, rubella (MMR), Hib, Hepatitis, et cetera[5]. Please stay away from major public attractions such as movie theaters, the mall, the zoo, Disney Parks & Attractions, Universal Studios, or any other major attraction where you or your child could infect another. 

To the unthinking, modern, know-it-all parent whom REFUSES to immunize your child/children:  YOU ARE A THREAT to my children & seven grandchildren (ages 2 to 13). 

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[1] http://www.cdc.gov/measles/cases-outbreaks.html 

[1] http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2015/02/02/us/measles-facts.html?_r=0

[2] http://www.religioustolerance.org/medical2.htm
[3] http://www.everyculture.com/multi/A-Br/Amish.html

[4] http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/16/health/ohio-mumps/

[5] http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/schedules/hcp/imz/child-adolescent.html

Auschwitz 70 Years Later

Many of us were not alive 70 years ago, when a group of Soviet soldiers walked into a camp and found the horrors of what Nazi Germany had done to millions of people, Jews, Gypsies, Gays. They found walking skeletons, men & women starved almost to death. Then and only then did we learn that there were other camps: Auschwitz-Birkenau, Bergen-Belsen, Dauchau[1],  just to name a few of the 20,000[2] camps that Adolf Hitler used to try and wipe out whole races, primarily the Jewish race. I know that my knowledge of this subject is spotty, and not what it should be, but I do know I never want my children to live to see this again.  

Many of us are familiar with the name Anne Frank[3] whose diary was made into a play and movie "The Diary of Anne Frank", which told the story her family that hid in an attic in Amsterdam, during World War II. While many teachers and professors assign this for class, as a "reading/literature" assignment should it be used in a "history" class as a living diary of a young woman's vision of war? The world became familiar with the name Oskar Schindler[4], whom was a ethnic German spy, whom save 1,200 Jewish lives by employing them in his enamelware factory during WWII, his story was told in the movie, "Schindler's List". The first thing that struck me was the photography of this movie (being a photographer it would). But as this movie plays out, it shows the cruelty of the soldiers, the hope of those working in Mr. Schindler's factory, and the resolve of him to "rescue" as many men and women as he could. At the end of the movie, we see the families of the survivors lying stones upon the grave stone of the Schindler's. This touched me more deeply than anything else in the movie, it showed the lives not only that he saved but the families that grew out of his sacrifice. Another name many know, is Elie Wiesel [5], whom survived Auschwitz, went on to write many books including, "Night" which told of his survival at Auschwitz. Mr. Wiesel was awarded many honors including a Nobel Peace Prize, A Congressional Gold Medal, Presidential Medal of Freedom, among many other honors. 

I know that my life has been changed radically after having read some testimonies on file with the USC Shoah Foundation[6]. I also visited a local Jewish Community Center here within my city to ask for a list of reading material, only to find a memorial wall to those whom survived the Holocaust and came to live here in Columbus, OH. That day I was touched by something that I cannot to this day explain.  I find that whenever I hear or read the testimony of those whom lived through the hell of these camps, but went on with their lives because of their faith in God that He would rescue them, that He would make everything "right". How does one have that much faith, when they are in places where so much death was around them. I can only pray that I have one-tenth of their faith daily in my life. 

Have we learned anything from this period of time in our history? I am finding that the answer to this question is, "No", and maybe even a shouting of, "NO!". While we do not have one man, we have thousands trying to rid our world of those whom do not believe as they do, but we allow them to trample countries where Adolf Hitler once before trampled upon them. How can people say in one breath, "Never again," but with the next breath allow themselves to live next door to someone whom openly hates them for their faith. Is it a question of "faith"? Or just a question of "hatred"? While I am taught by my faith not to "hate" anyone, I find myself truly beginning to hate those whom use terror (bombings, be-headings, shootings, etc) to get their way.  

On Tuesday, as our world stops to lay wreaths, bow heads to pray, take time to check out one of the footnotes I have included below. 

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[1]  http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/Holocaust/cclist.html

[2]  http://www.ushmm.org/wlc/en/article.php?ModuleId=10005144
[3]  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anne_Frank
[4]  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oskar_Schindler
[5]  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elie_Wiesel

[6]  http://www.ushmm.org/research/research-in-collections/search-the-collections/shoah-foundation 

Child Abuse in the Name of Teleivison

Before I bring this blog forward I need to stress that I am ONLY a parent. Both of my children are considered "gifted". My son was not only a Junior National Rodeo Bull Riding Champion, he is mechanically gifted. What is mechanically gifted? It means that he can look at a schematic/blueprint for an engine or motor and build it. At three years old he took apart his grandpa's front grill, headlamps, and bumpers off his car, not only did he take it apart he put it back together without the help of an adult, other than to tighten all of the screws. He has always been curious as to how things work. Never did I ever get upset when his grades dropped under a "B" because he was always conscious of his grades. He turned thirty this year and I keep wondering where my little boy went. My daughter has a tested IQ of 155. She is a math and language scholar (while I can barely balance my checkbook, she can look at mine and tell me where I have gone wrong, without the aid of calculator). She picks up languages the very first time she hears them and excelled at German in high school. With my daughter school was a huge problem, she was bored during most of her classes which happens. Without a "gifted" program in our district she struggled. When she went to live with her dad in Southwest Missouri, she began following her dream of studying fine art in college. My daughter is currently a junior at the University of Missouri at Columbia in their fine arts program. Before you ask, she won her very first scholarship in 8th grade for a pencil drawing, which won an honorable mention at her county fair. Why am I telling you all of this? So you understand where I am coming from as a parent of two gifted children. My children climbed trees, rode bikes, roller bladed, skate boarded, rode horses, laughed with their friends, and learned to live life to the fullest. The only time I yelled was to call them in for supper & bedtime.

Maybe I am wrong. Maybe I am barking up the wrong tree. But does anyone feel that many of the shows that are on television seem to be exploiting children? I have already told you what I think of the TLC show "Toddlers & Tiaras".  The shows I am speaking of are on the "Lifetime Television Network". Have any of you seen "Bring It", "Child Genius" or "Dance Mom's"? I want to dissect them each on their merits, and their failures. 

BRING IT:  What it is billed as by the network is the weekly struggles of  a "Hip Hop" dance troupe. Ms. D, like Abbey Lee of Dance Mom's is a diva. I don't mean diva with a lower case "d", I mean D-I-V-A. While I do understand that practice makes perfect, I find that some of the dance moves she teaches are not only way too "adult" but are bordering on erotic. Why is that these parents do NOT see the damage that they are doing by allowing their daughters to not only dress provocatively. but allow them to perform in skin tight, nothing left to the imagination outfits, with movements that look like they came from the local strip joint. While Ms. D. has won many "trophies" and "grand championships" what is she really teaching? Is she teaching these young girls/young women that no where will anything they learn from her will be allowed on a high school or college pep or cheer leading squad. Another thing I cannot handle is how she treats the mother's. How dare you yell at me, without me, without my child, without me shelling out many thousands of dollars your "Hip Hop" dance troupe would be nothing. There are times I would love to shake some of these parents also. 

CHILD GENIUS:  At the end of this seasons show one child will walk away with a $250,000 college scholarship. Hello parents, your child will not only get a scholarship he will graduate way before his peers will. I happen to watch the one episode where one of he young men stated he wanted to "...get his driver's license at the same time he is being awarded his Ph. D...". This young man who is about 11-13 years old is amazingly bright, but he also has a sense of humor about his abilities. I only watched one episode of this show, at the end I was crying for the children. As I stated at the beginning of this I am the parent of two gifted children. Did I sit with my children as thy did homework? I sure did. Did I force them to sit for hours memorizing facts? Absolutely NOT. I raised two children whom l sent outside to play, because when a child plays they are also learning. These children are so traumatized when being eliminated from this show. I think competition is VERY healthy for every child, however berating your child because they answered a question wrong, which they ended up breaking down into tears, they needed your love, your understanding, your arms around them reminding them that you "LOVE" them unconditionally.

DANCE MOMS: Oh Abbey Lee, what a D-I-V-A you are. You are an out of shape, out of control dance teacher that screams at the parents, whom by the way pay your salary, keep a roof over your head, and a barre in your dance studio. Every season you get worse, you demand more, you berate more, and still have not figured out that many of the problems with the parents you created. I stopped watching after the second season, but one cannot miss the previews on other networks for this show. 

I am tired of our children being used as pawns by the adults that are supposed to love them. These parents need to be turned in for "child abuse". Child abuse has many forms, they very worst form of child abuse is VERBAL. When you say something to your child or children that is negative, that statement will ALWAYS be there to haunt them. God gave us children to love, as a gift, to nurture to grow them as you would grow a flower or tree. What we teach our children, they in turn teach their children. 

I will put away my soapbox, and go back to my bench to watch the world go by.

Thoughts About 9/11

Thirteen years ago we, the American people were ambushed. Our world screeched to a halt on a beautiful September morning. But have we truly learned anything from this tragedy? I would have to agree with this picture, and say, "NO WE HAVE NOT"!

The NSA (National Security Administration) will track anyone and every ones emails, Facebook posts, Tweets if they contain certain phrases: Second Amendment, Impeach, Minuteman, #2A, Constitution, Tea Party, etc. But they haven't got a clue how to track millions of illegal aliens whom enter this country illegally, or the entry and/or exit of foreign nationals visiting, on work visas, or on student visas, which by the way many have expired, yet they cannot seem to find them to DEPORT them. 

Think about this: If I were to write a bad check, not pay for it, I would see a sheriff at my door as soon as you can say, "No way". However, we have thousands of illegal aliens whom commit crimes in this country, some are never caught because the make a beeline for the border, and some are tried, convicted, and imprisoned (which by the way, they have it better than MOST senior citizens...they get three meals a day, shower every other day, free medical attention & medication, cable television, and are babysat 24/7/365. Albeit the comforts of home they do not have, however they have it better!), which when released are deported only to cross back into this country to commit the very same crimes or other more horrific crimes against American citizens. 

Do I think we should secure our borders? Damn Skippy I do. I think we should do as every other country on this earth does, have our military join with our Border Patrol to secure our borders. I also think that we need to use whatever means necessary to keep illegals from crossing into our country. Mine field would work just fine. If you think this is extreme, there is a one mile section between the border of North & South Korea, it is told that a farmers cow wandered onto this section of land, there was NOTHING left of the cow after both border patrols opened fire on the cow, who was doing nothing but grazing. The U.S. is the ONLY country where if you are an illegal alien you get food stamps, housing, jobs, medical treatment; yet we have homeless veterans living on the streets, without jobs, without proper housing or medical treatment. I am very sure many of these veterans would look at this as a hand up not a hand out!

I pray daily for those whom lost their lives that day, the survivors whom live with the guilt, our country which needs to REMEMBER this day, which was one of the worst days in our history, but yet it was one of our best. We came together, we held hands, we prayed, and we flew our flags proudly. GOD BLESS AMERICA, and those that defend her. 

Finally I leave you with this, for you to ponder:

NONE OF THE ABOVE

In 1985 Richard Pryor made a movie called “Brewster’s Millions”. While many may not remember this movie or all of its cast of colorful characters, there is one part of the movie I always remember. Brewster, played by Pryor, suddenly within 10 days of the election jumps into the fray, not to be elected himself but to urge voters to vote for, “None of the Above” (here is the movie clip via YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXEglx-or6k). Pryor reminds each and every one of us that our most important role as American’s is to VOTE. On every ballot there is a small area to “WRITE IN” a candidate. Maybe it is time we began a campaign of “None of the Above”. Maybe it is time to show our government which is out of control, whom actually holds all of the power. It is also time to dismantle the “Electoral College” which does NOT have the public’s best interest in mind.

All I am saying is it is time everyone to start telling our politicians the “None of the Above” can and will be a candidate if things do not change in Washington (or your local town, city, or state). I want what is the very best for this country and obviously it isn't in place at the moment. Ask yourself and your representative the following questions: 

• “Are you representing what I want?”
• “Are you spending my tax dollars wisely?”
• “Are you giving Active Duty Service Members the help they need?”
• “Are you giving our & Veteran’s the help they need(i.e.: VA Benefits, Timely Appointments)?”
• “Do our Armed Service Members have everything they need in the field?”
• “Do you really need catered lunch everyday?
• “Do you really need two homes?”
• “Do you really need an office staff of 50 to 100 people?”

If your representative, hems, haws, or just passes on these questions than you need to find someone else to represent you, your family, & your friends.

To the people whom will be cleaning out their offices after the elections please do the following on the way out the door:

• Remove all “Golden Parachutes” for you will be “free falling” to your home without the help of the taxpayers you stole from;
• Write a check payable to the “American People” for all of the money you have stolen [this number should be a three digit number followed by six zeroes, a period, and two zeroes (it should resemble this: $XXX,000,000.00)]. YES I said “stolen” through legislated graft.
• Remove all of your cronies from the Capitol Building and take them back to wherever they belong;
• DO NOT blame anyone but yourself for what is happening to you.

Remember get out and vote. 

ACTIONS WILL ALWAYS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!

Before I begin my rant I need to wish all the very best to Michael Sam in his career.

To the younger generation that may be reading this: I AM OLD FASHIONED. PERIOD. I am NOT or NEVER been homophobic or anything even close to it. I feel that what you do behind closed doors is your business, NOT mine. 

WHY is it that we ignore our Christian ball players, Tim Tebow for instance but laud & praise gay ball players? To be honest I would rather read ten articles about Christian players to one of them containing a players lifestyle. WHY is it I NEVER hear about either of the Manning brothers, Tom Brady, Drew Brees, in the news unless it is about what they are doing on the field? I could be very wrong but maybe it is because they know how to keep their private life PRIVATE!!!! 

I am writing this as I watch ESPN Sport Center, listening for the sports news of the day. I hear that Oprah & Michael Sam agreed to do a "documentary" about him, however he left out on big thing in the equation, the St. Louis Rams football management & team. Making the transition from college to professional will NOT be a cakewalk for any player drafted, however it will make it one hundred or even a thousand times harder with cameras following you around inside and outside of the locker room. Mr. Sam, never once did you contact Ram's management or take into account your fellow players feelings about being in this "documentary". A locker room is NO place for a camera, period; unless it is after a game and there is someone asking questions.  

Let's face some very black and white facts: the openly "GAY" ceiling was broke by two women over 35 years ago, one was Billie Jean King, the other Martina Navratilova. These two women had it much rougher than ANY player, "coming out" today. Get with the program men, do the job your paid to do with honor and integrity. Keep your bedroom out of the picture. That goes for straight players as well, why am I reading about your sex life all over the internet? Are you that small of a man inside you must make your bedroom prowess known? Or make your partner feel less than human when she is humiliated by you online or in the press?

Another thing WHY didn't ESPN or the mainstream media go manic over Philadelphia Eagles pic 6'9". U.S. Military Academy Graduate, Army Ranger & Bronze Star recipient Alejandro Villanueva*? My guess was because anyone wearing a military uniform, or being a patriot is OFF LIMITS. This is HUGE news for the Eagles whom are really lacking in the defense department. My hope is that every Sunday from week one to the Super Bowl this man's name is on their tongues. The media needs to cover every pick or no picks at all. We cannot chose what to report.

BTW, None of you are my heroes, my heroes wear DOG TAGS & CAMO!!!!!

*  Read more about Philadelphia Eagles pick Alejandro Villanueva here: http://allenbwest.com/2014/05/sams-kiss-brave-villanuevas-bronze-star-now-thats-brave/